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Welcome to the How to Scale Commercial Real Estate Show. In this episode, USA Today bestselling author and real estate attorney Angela Lalande joins us to talk about her book, The Lighthouse Method. In the book, Angela discusses how to rise out of darkness and achieve success in life and business. She shares her own story of overcoming failure and finding her path to success. Angela explains how the Lighthouse Method can help others break free from negative self-talk and false beliefs, and replace them with truth and positivity. Tune in to hear more about Angela’s journey and the Lighthouse Method.
Highlights
[00:00] – [03:57] Finding the Light Within Yourself
- Angela shares her story of how she graduated from college and found herself cleaning toilets at a gym.
- She realized she was not using her potential and sought to change her situation
- She is now a real estate attorney and bestselling author
- She wrote “The Lighthouse Method” based on her own journey from darkness to light, and hopes to empower others to overcome setbacks and rise out of darkness
[03:57] – [08:09] The Lighthouse Method
- The Lighthouse Method is a framework for overcoming setbacks and rising out of darkness
- It involves confessing, repenting, forgiving oneself and others, and replacing negative self-talk with the truth of who you are
- The end result is a mindset shift and breaking agreement with the devil, which allows you to become a prism and shine your brightest
[08:09] – [12:49] Becoming a Prism: The Importance of the Lighthouse Method
- The Lighthouse Method is important because it offers a roadmap for anyone who is going through a tough time in their life.
- The method is based on the idea that everyone has the potential to overcome adversity and achieve success.
- By following the steps outlined in the Lighthouse Method, people can break free from negative patterns and shift their mindset to one of positivity and resilience.
[12:49] – [15:42] Final Statements
- Reach out to Angela
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- Final words
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“In life there are a lot of failures and rising, failing and rising. And so, for me I rose up after failing to get to where I am today.” – Angela Lalande
““If you’re postured in humility, you confess. You repent, forgive yourself and others, and then replace the negative self-talk, false accusations and lies with the truth of who you are. That you are actually brave, courageous, more than a conqueror.” – Angela Lalande
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[00:00] Angela Lalande: So, if you’re postured in humility, you confess. You repent, forgive yourself and others, and then replace the negative self-talk, false accusations and lies with the truth of who you are. That you are actually brave, courageous, more than a conqueror. The end result is a mindset shift and truly you break agreement with the devil, you become a prism. [00:23] Intro: Welcome to the How to Scale Commercial Real Estate Show. Whether you are an active or passive investor, we’ll teach you how to scale your real estate investing business into something big.
[00:35] Sam Wilson: Angela Leland is a USA Today bestselling author and real estate attorney who desires to empower others to shine their brightest. Angela, welcome to the show.
[00:44] Angela Lalande: Thank you, Sam. Thank you for having me. [00:46] Sam Wilson: Absolutely. Angela, there are three questions I ask every guest who comes to the show in 90 seconds or less. Can you tell me where did you start? Where are you now, and how did you get there?
[00:53] Angela Lalande: Yes. So where did I start? Gosh I realized I was not using my potential and I would found myself cleaning toilets at a gym. And I thought, this was after I graduated from college, and I thought: “There’s so much more I can do with my life”. And so now I’m a real estate attorney and, you know, bestselling author. And so, really in life there are a lot of, you know, failures and rising, failing and rising, you know, that happened. And so for me I rose up after failing to get to where I am today.
[01:23] Sam Wilson: Wow. That is quick. You did it. 90 seconds or less. That sometimes can be hard. Real estate attorney. Failing to rising. I know this is the title of over of your book. What is that actually? I know it was, it’s the Lighthouse Method.
[01:37] Angela Lalande: That’s it. Okay. Yes. The Lighthouse Method.
[01:39] Sam Wilson: Before we get too far in, tell our listeners where they can find it, and then I want to hear your story and talk about the Lighthouse method and how this has really come to be.
[01:47] Angela Lalande: Thank you, sam. Yes, the lighthouse method. You can find it on Amazon. Really if you Google the Lighthouse Method and my first name, which is Angela, it should pop right up. And so that’s where your listeners can find it.
[02:00] Sam Wilson: Awesome. Cool. So tell me the backstory, the inspiration for writing the lighthouse method. It sounds like it stems from potentially a painful period in your life.
[02:09] Angela Lalande: Yes. It, it did. And so, I was in my own darkness about 11 years ago, almost 12 now. And so there’s a period of time where I had my own journey of coming from darkness to light. And so now that I am healed, I desired to empower others to also rise out of darkness. You know, I was thinking about your listeners. I would imagine there’s a vast majority, if you took a survey you know, if your listeners took a survey and you had asked them: “Hey, how many of you are dealing with a deep monumental setback or a dark period are you in the dark right now?” I would imagine if they were being honest with themselves, a vast majority would say: “Hey, yes, that’s me”. And so, so it really I knew this message was kind of burning in inside of me for a while now. And in fact, the book stayed, it started in the form of a letter that stayed in my laptop for more than a year. Before I got a book coach and we hashed out the outline and everything and it de developed after another year into the book that it has now become.
[03:04] Sam Wilson: Wow, that’s really cool. So what is the lighthouse method and tell me this, maybe even before we get into that, why do you think this is important? I mean, it really sounds like it applies to anybody in life, anybody in business, anybody trying to do something. But how does this really apply, I guess, to everyday people and why?
[03:24] Angela Lalande: So, any person, no matter where you are, you know, we all have things that happen in our lives that cause us to, to shrink into the dark. It’s just a part of living. Dark circumstances can arise out of nowhere. Sometimes we make choices that put us in the dark. Sometimes things happen to us that put us in the dark. And then, yes, this can happen. And you know, I know that your show, you deal with a lot of investors now in the first person that they need to invest in is really in themselves and in order to do or scale their businesses the way they need to properly, they need to be out of the dark themselves.
[03:57] So this can empower your listeners as well as any person who may be dealing with a situation or a setback in how to over overcome, because we were all designed and created to shine. That’s it. And so, for those people who may think that they’re alone, you are not alone. And there is a place and a strategy to overcome. So these steps, I make it simple. You know, some people may be so, far in the dark. They didn’t, don’t know where to start to get out of it. So this book lays out these steps and really my path and how what were the things that I did during my time or how did I get out of it? And so that, that’s what happens here in this book.
[04:32] Sam Wilson: That’s really interesting. Tell me what are the steps? If you can, and I know the idea here is that our listeners end up going out and actually reading the book, so I’m not asking for the whole book.
[04:44] Angela Lalande: Yes, I’m gonna lay the steps out for you and I wanna go into a couple of them for, but just because of Tom, I know I can’t do all of them, but and cut me off if I need. You need to.
[04:53] Sam Wilson: No, carry on, please.
[04:55] Angela Lalande: Because they’re so wonderful and important. So the five steps in the lighthouse method. First, you prepare to rise up. Secondly, become a prism. Three, have the right support system. Four, bend your light and shine and then five is find harbor and become it. So I’ll explain these a little more detail first in preparing to rise up and I’ll really probably go into one and two deeper, but especially two. In preparing to rise up, you must first cast the vision for healing. Think of some of the greats throughout history. Before Leonardo da Vinci painted the Last Supper. He saw the masterpiece in his mind. Before Venus and Serena Williams were tennis legends. They saw themselves as champions. They cast the vision. The same can be said of somebody looking to rise out of the darkness of depression, anxiety, or fear. If they see it, they be can become it. So you must first cast vision. Then you commit to taking regular actions to stay healthy. This is really filling your time with things that are good for your mind, body and spirit. One of those things is listening to a podcast on overcoming. So this is, you know, since we’re doing a podcast right now, you know, if you can find somebody’s story. Somebody who’s overcome may be listening to their own victory will give you the courage to walk towards obtaining your own. So I love that. So you cast a vision. For healing, you commit to take regular actions. To stay healthy, you honor your emotions. That’s thirdly in preparing to rest. Honoring your emotions means you must feel pain, grief, anger, sadness, and process them to heal you. Process instead of suppress. Suppression will only take you further into your own darkness. So those are a couple of steps in preparing to rise, that’s the part I wanna dive into quickly. The second step become a prism cuz it’s really exciting for me. And it’s really the other steps developed around this one: become a prism. So, in order to become a prism you must be transparent and purified where the impurities in your life are extracted.
This allows you to be a conduit for light. Now become a prism. Why did I need that step? That it’s because of Augustin-Jean Fresnel. Did you recognize that name from science?
[07:13] Sam Wilson: I do not.
[07:14] Angela Lalande: Well, I didn’t know him either until I started researching lighthouses. Okay. Cuz his name kept popping up. So, and you probably didn’t realize I’d be giving you a science and history lesson today, but here we go.
[07:25] Sam Wilson: I love it.
[07:26] Angela Lalande: Augustin-Jean Fresnel, the world knows him as the French physicist who’s invention of the Fresnel lens, revolutionized lighthouse technology in the early 19th century. His invention is called “the invention that saved a million ships”. So a Fresnel lens, isn’t that amazing? So you save so many lives. The Fresnel lens is made up of concentric sections of distinct prisms or triangular pieces of glass. It can take all the light. And chand it out into the night, penetrating the night to over 20 miles out to sea. So before his invention, too many sailors were lost to shipwrecks because the light that admitted for the lighthouse was not bright enough. So ships would run a ground on rocks. Sailors would die because they could not see where they were. So it’s the prisms in the lighthouse that cause a light to pierce at night. But a prism doesn’t always start out in the way we might imagine. Before it can become a beautiful creation, it must go through a purification process. And let me drill that down a little bit more. So, prisms are typically made of glass. Most glasses made by combining sand, soda, ash, and limestone, and melting these materials at a very high temperature. Once this happens, the impurities inside melt away and the dirt and debris transforms into a beautiful, pristine sustaining creation.
So just kind of giving that visual there. Just as a prism must go through a purification process. We too must go through our own purification process in order for our light to pierce the night. When we are cleansed, when all our dirt is washed away, we can see and be seen with clarity. So in the book, and I’m not gonna dive into them, but I do have a purification process that I do list in there which is made up of five parts. I like the number five, I guess. Humility, confession, repentance forgiveness and replacement. So quite simply, and not quite so simply, if you’re postured in humility, You confess your sins are wrongdoings. And sometimes you’re not only confessing your sins, you’re just confessing what happened to you?
Because if you were put in the dark by someone else’s choices, sometimes, you know, we confess one to another, right? So, if you’re postured in humility, you confess. You repent, forgive yourself and others, and then replace the negative self-talk, false accusations and lies with the truth of who you are. That you are actually brave, courageous, more than a conqueror. The end result is a mindset shift and truly you break agreement with the devil, you become a prism.
[10:05] Sam Wilson: Angela, it sounds like a lot of this is a mindset shift that not just somebody who’s maybe struggling with some deep, dark, heavy thing, but that all of us can benefit from. I mean, is that a fair analysis?
[10:19] Angela Lalande: Yes, absolutely. And I love that you’re asking that question with the prism. If you think of the qualities of a prism, it’s transparent. It’s see through that it’s not clouded or muddied by something, even if it’s an a belief that’s not right, you know? We are created to create and to achieve and to go for things and not be stuck in a box. So when we are transparent and can see clearly, we’re able to see that we’re made for much more than we give ourselves credit for. Isn’t that right?
[10:50] Sam Wilson: Absolutely. No, that, that’s very cool. What do you think someone, if they spent the time to investigate this and say, man, this is maybe some, something to dig into, like what has been the effect in your life and maybe what do you propose could be the effect for other people as they go through this process?
[11:08] Angela Lalande: Yeah. Yeah. I think for some people when they start the book and really as they’re reading, they may be able to – some of their own personal experiences, things that may, they might not have even thought about for years that they didn’t realize was even holding them back. May come to the surface and then which will be great, is because when they come to the surface you can deal with them and then overcome them and release them. So, you know what I love about, the last step is find harbor and become it. That’s when you courageously rise out of the waters of depression, anxiety, fear, or whatever those waters are that are holding you back.
And you actually take your place, your rightful place, which is on the shore looking out. And the benefit is somebody who you know, has healed. You’re able to find somebody else. You’ll be able to look past yourself and outside yourself to find other people and bring them home. So that’s the goal.
[11:59] Sam Wilson: I love it. And that’s a great analogy. I hadn’t quite tied all those together yet. I’m a slow learner here in that is the lighthouse method. I’ve always said that for, the easiest way to get over depression or, you know, feelings of like, you know, unhappiness is to go find somebody else in need. Like the fastest way is to go serve someone else. It’s like, oh man, like, I can go help this person. By the time you’re done helping them, you feel a whole lot better about yourself, which is a weird, kind of self-serving way, but it’s mutually beneficial. So I love it. [12:31] Angela Lalande: You’re exactly right because in doing that you’re taking the focus off yourself. You’re seeing the need of somebody else. If we continue, if we only focus on ourselves. A, things may seem bigger than they actually are, right? It’s, you know, when we can actually look at others, we’re able to have a heart. Our heart posture is different. What I mean?
[12:49] Sam Wilson: Yes. Yep. Absolutely. Absolutely. It is. No, I love that. And I think so many, so, so many times we have, you know, we go through goal setting exercise as we go through like, Hey, what do I want 2023 to be like, what? You know, we go through these processes. And somehow there’s always in the end of it, I think we’re always setting bigger and better goals but the idea of, I think you said taking your rightful place, I like that. I think that’s a great way to put it. Where it’s like, no, like I, I will live into what I was created to become and here’s how I’m gonna do it. So a very cool book. I think this’ll be fun and hopefully speak to some of our listeners and maybe they can get a copy of this book and really dig in deep on it. I know, I certainly will. Just for a personal exercise. Cause I think there’s always value in things like this. I forget where I heard it, but it was something to the effect of everything you want lies on the other side of fear, right? If only we can push through the things that we’re afraid of or that might be holding us back if we can somehow, you know, take your method here. I love the steps that you’ve outlined there. So anyway I won’t keep talking about it. I’m just gonna go read your book and digest it from that point forward. I do want to just shift gears real quick though, and hear a little bit about your real estate attorney business, what you do on that front, and maybe give our listeners, you know, part two of who Angela is?
[14:05] Angela Lalande: Thank you. Yes. So I am the CEO and owner of Lalande Title. We are a real estate closing company in Louisiana. So we offer title services, settlement and escrow services as well. So when people are in layman’s terms, if they’re looking to purchase a home or property, or you know, investors who are looking to invest in property, we handle all the paperwork at the end, we pay all the parties. It’s the happy place at the end. Of course, during, there can be problems that happen we have to work through or some other things. But usually at the end of the day, it’s always a happy place to be because the seller gets money and the buyer is, has new property. Hey, fantastic. We wanna make sure we include both of those there in the show notes. Angela, if our listeners wanna get in touch with you or learn more about you, what is the best way to do?
[14:51] Angela Lalande: Yes. I would say, you know, our website through the Real Estate Company. The title company is http://www.lalandetitle.com. That’s LALANDE title.com. You can also find me on Facebook, Angela Lalande. And on Instagram as well. You can find with company or my personal Instagram account, @aclalande. And I would love to connect.
[15:14] Sam Wilson: Fantastic. Thank you, Angela, for your time today. I certainly appreciate it and look forward to getting a copy of your book.
[15:18] Angela Lalande: Thank you, Sam. Appreciate you. Take care.
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